I am a big fan of manifesting. My “I am Abundant” mantra works a treat.
At the start of 2017, I’d set myself an income manifesting abundance goal. If my business hit a certain income number, I wanted to give money back directly to my community. I totally manifested that, so I was open to receive and to give. I work with a lot of creative mums starting businesses. Some of these mums have been through a bit of a washing machine shit cycle in life if I am being frank. I know. I get it.
Long story short, I launched my first ever round of sponsorship funding for women from the Mumpreneur program. The goal of sponsorship was to help them grow their businesses a little faster. In order for me to give this opportunity, I had to be open to receive. I thought it would be really easy to give funds away.
If you’re manifesting abundance, giving can’t happen without receiving.
I was so surprised by what happened by giving to the women I serve in the start-up phases of their business.
First, there is no denying that giving feels good for the soul. Yes, I ugly cried on a Facebook live as I worked toward my teeny tiny version of Oprah’s “You get a car, You get a car”… (baby steps my friend, baby steps).
What surprised me though is the number of women who send me private messages saying “oh, that is so kind, Belle, I know there are women starting a business in there who deserve the money more than me, so I’m not going to apply”.
It wasn’t just one message – it was multiple!!
Which got me thinking…have we developed a mindset that is better at the law of giving than receiving of things in life?
Before I mess with your mindset like a newbie carving their first Christmas Turkey, lets talk about being a good giver first…
The Law of Giving and Receiving: Giving without sacrifice is a secret to manifesting abundance.
There have been two books that have really changed how I view giving and receiving. The first one is The Secret.
There is a big difference between giving and sacrificing. Giving from a heart that is overflowing feels so good. Sacrifice does not feel good. Do not confuse the two – they are diametrically opposed – Rhonda Byrne, The Secret
Confession: If I looked at my life and all the situations I found myself in, I thought I was being a really good giver. I would take on the role of protector as a child yet the outcome was I was sacrificing me. Sometimes in a really bad and unhealthy way for me – not the other people, for me. I would give up my time, my money, my dreams and goals for the sake of things that others wanted. You know you are sacrificing instead of giving because you feel it in your stomach and your heart.
I almost developed this “come on universe, show me what else you can throw at me mentality” as a way to prove my strength. Ask and you shall receive – well, only until you realise that if you are going to be a warrior goddess, you need to really think about the healthy fight. Fight for giving yourself the life you dreamed of.
I have also done this in business in the past, where I have sacrificed my worth and livelihood for the sake of providing a discount to my customers. If I charge them X, they will go broke. Guess what? They are not the right customer to receive from.
It all comes down to the mindset you have for giving and receiving, and creating a plan that flows.
Here are some mindset tips to help you think about how you give can include the following:
- Can I give this money to a receiver with confidence?
- Can I give my time for free?
- Is what I am giving energising me or depleting me?
- Do I feel phsyically and mentally safe with what I am giving?
- Is what I am giving valued by the receiver?
- Is what I am giving aligned to my core values?
- If my child gave the same thing, what would I feel about it?
- Where does my source of giving come from?
- Is my priority giving to myself or giving to others?
- Is what I wish to receive aligned to want I am giving?
Partner up (in business or in life) with someone who has a very different giving mindset, and you are bound to experience conflict. Why? Because your values and your priorities are way out of sync.
I’d encourage you to take time out to think about how you give to yourself next year….which brings me to the next part…
If we have already connected, you can find a workbook in the free resource library (just find your email with the password) to help you review how you manifest abundance. Otherwise you can grab the free manifest like a mother here
Manifesting Abundance needs you to receive so you can give.
The fifth law..The Law of Receptivity. The key to effective giving is to stay open to receiving. Bob Burg and John David Mann, The Go Giver
If you are looking for an easy Christmas read that will change your biz, check out The Go Giver. Ok back on track, Belle. The big slap in the face with a wet fish realisation with my “Oprah” inspired give moment was this:
Giving is hard to do, if people are not open to receive.
I was seriously like “What the F. You mean I can’t give away money to help my tribe??” I actually ended up making the sponsor amounts smaller, and they were easier to receive.
If it’s believable, its receivable
Giving wasn’t a sacrifice for me. I ticked all those feels. My receivers were not open (if I were a football fan, this would be awesome for an analogy!). Those open to receiving would send messages that said this:
“Oh Belle, I had been praying for a sign, and then you did this – thank you thank you thank you”.
They had manifested to receive.
Law of Receiving: Be mindful how you manifest.
Manifesting abundance is something I am a big believer of. Knowing the universe will give to me so I in turn can give to others sits deep within my core. I truly believe I will never run out of money. As far as I’m concerned, it always needs to be available to be transformed for giving to others. It might be give it for shoes, I might give it to pay for education, I might give it for sponsorship opportunities.
Manifesting abundance and being open to receive comes back to your self worth. No one is perfect – I can definitely improve my manifesting. Where my energy and action is focused drives the giving and receiving. With all my energy on my kids and my business, I have not put energy into love. I could totally manifest something there (like a hot date – but gorg, I’m so rusty the hot date might get tetanus!)
Think about the life you want to life, or the business you want to build next year, are you open to receiving?
Check your manifesting abundance mindset with these scenarios:
- You receive a gift that you didn’t want/don’t really like. Do you appreciate the intent, or reject the outcome?
- Someone comes to you with a gift of money. Is the response “thank you” or “thank you, but that’s not necessary?”
- Do you feel as deserving as others to receive gifts of support, time, money? if not, why not?
- Do you feel you deserve an awesome amazing life?
- What good could you do in the world if you received love/money/help?
- What is behind the rejection of gifts coming your way? Is it connected to a belief about failing or self worth? Take a peek and see what comes up
Giving and receiving is a little like physics. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
Remember, if you want to do some work on how you manifest, you can grab the free manifest like a mother workbook hereor just click the image below.
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